I have heard it hundreds, maybe even thousands of times: “Resh, you’re so strong. Resh, you’re inspiring.” People send me heartfelt messages or approach me in public applauding me for handling the situation I am in in the way I have. I want to know what makes me so different? Why am I the strong one? You are looking at me and the hurdles I am over coming and comparing them to your problems and stresses. Am I not just playing the cards I have been dealt?
Regardless of what may be going on in your life, whether it be; work, school, university, college, relationships, breakups, devastation, trauma, illness, family or friends issues, no one has the right to undermine you or anything that bothers you. We are all individuals, all dealt different hands and all have different threshold levels of what we believe we can handle.
I want to point out that if its a stress to you, no matter how big or small the issue may seem to others, then it is a stress and it matters. Stop belittling your feelings and problems, stop feeling as though you shouldn’t be allowed to get down about the ‘little’ things. I appreciate others look to me and my story and question why they let things get to them, but don’t put yourself down for it.
I don’t have much of an explanation, but the explantation I do have is that I like to believe that we all have this strength within us. Such a powerful inner strength lies within us that keeps us moving forward. From every single time in the past in which you’ve sat there not being able to see how you’re going to move past the ordeal you’re going through. For ever moment you’ve been on the brink of giving up, tears and despair, you’ve managed to get past its one way or another. You’ve got past every difficult day you’ve ever had to be here. Reflect on each time you’ve not been able to see a future, there is something within you that has kept you pushing on.
Oblivious to you is that inner strength. You could go through life without ever realising what strength you truly possess, but if you do ever identify it and learn just how strong you are, you’ll realise just how capable you are to do anything. There’s only so much you can do, so far you can go with the inner strength alone. Yes you could come out the other side of a traumatic event physically, but emotionally are you broken? But imagine how strong, how powerful, how confident and how motivated you could be once you knew just how special you are.
You’re the only version of you in the world. Make it important. Stand for something real. Chase love not popularity. So what if you aren’t everyone’s favourite, did you try your best to be the best version of you today? You’re here for you. Make a positive difference. Overcoming every single issue in your life is a giant stride forward. Once it is done, that issue can be left in your past.
Whilst over coming issues, all your current actions will become parts of your past. Remember that your actions and words are a reflection of you. Everything in your past gets folded up and put into a suitcase, which you carry around forever. No one is perfect, and we have all tried different methods, its all part of the process of growing up. Never let someone else alter your actions or behaviour to the point you can’t recognise yourself anymore. Why are you being put in a situation that you can’t move forward, or you don’t see your life continuing in the way you’d like.
Handle each tough time with grace. Don’t lose yourself in a world where it is all to easy to do so. Keep your dignity and respect for yourself, and the world will show it to you. Remember, you’re only here to compete with yourself. Get to know who you are, realise all the power you truly have. Look at how far you’ve come already, aren’t you proud? You’ve got no reason to shy away or hide the things society tells you are flaws. No one has the right, nor can they ever take away your inner strength. I just wish you just recognised how much strength you have.